Am sorry to hear that and know what you mean.My post was definitely not a shade to the grad rec team at all. I just felt it not necessary to add the line “you were not a top candidate”. It feels demoralising when it comes from grad rec who have read your app and makes me think if I have what it takes.
They could have just said “we received stronger candidates”. I’m sure they are all great
Some firms need to write their emails better as it can be emotionally draining hearing words like that so I feel your pain.
It is like I would rather be ghosted than hearing evil words like those.
Don't worry too much about it and there is still a long week ahead of you and I hope you receive some good news with apps this week.