- Feb 17, 2018
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Hi everyone,
I wanted to inform you about a situation that has recently happened in the TCLA forum.
On at least two occasions now, we have learnt that a member ('Member X') has been contacting other members via our private message function. It usually starts off cordial, until they exchange numbers, and Member X begins harassing the other person if they don't respond to their messages quickly enough. We've noticed that Member X usually comes from a place of having a hard time in this process and the other member (who are often incredibly generous) are made to feel guilty if they aren't providing support.
Our concerns about Member X has now escalated to a point where we have made a report with the police.
Please be careful with private messages in the forum, particularly where members ask to exchange phone numbers. If you ever do feel like something is off or you feel uncomfortable with the way a member is messaging you, I'd want you to feel that you can come to me ([email protected]) or @Jessica Booker with anything.
You should also never feel like you need to respond to someone who private messages you. I know some members have been made to feel guilty if they don't respond, but I want you to know there is absolutely no obligation to respond to anyone.
I wanted to inform you about a situation that has recently happened in the TCLA forum.
On at least two occasions now, we have learnt that a member ('Member X') has been contacting other members via our private message function. It usually starts off cordial, until they exchange numbers, and Member X begins harassing the other person if they don't respond to their messages quickly enough. We've noticed that Member X usually comes from a place of having a hard time in this process and the other member (who are often incredibly generous) are made to feel guilty if they aren't providing support.
Our concerns about Member X has now escalated to a point where we have made a report with the police.
Please be careful with private messages in the forum, particularly where members ask to exchange phone numbers. If you ever do feel like something is off or you feel uncomfortable with the way a member is messaging you, I'd want you to feel that you can come to me ([email protected]) or @Jessica Booker with anything.
You should also never feel like you need to respond to someone who private messages you. I know some members have been made to feel guilty if they don't respond, but I want you to know there is absolutely no obligation to respond to anyone.