Hey guys, I was wondering if I could ask some advice. I am going through some really difficult personal stuff right now which does not look like it will get better any time soon. I also have a vac scheme coming up at the end of June, and I am not sure I really have it in me to sit in front of a webcam and put my best foot forward. I can't move the vac scheme bc it is the last session the firm offers.
Should I just pull out? I really really don't want to blow it but right now just getting out of bed is an achievement. Has anyone else had any experience with this at all? Thank you.
Hi,
Firstly, I really hope you're surrounding yourself with people and seeking out the help you need - that's the most important first step in a situation like this. I'm sorry that you're feeling overwhelmed and have a lot going on - that must be very difficult for you.
It's really difficult to say, I'm afraid, as everyone's coping mechanisms are different. But, I can offer you a little bit of advice from my perspective and maybe it can help?
Last year, my father passed away and it was a really difficult time for me. I'd secured my job (that I'm currently in) and it was a great opportunity. After my father passed, I struggled a lot with depression and just general confusion from the turmoil of the situation. When I reached out to my employer, they couldn't push my start date any further back than they'd already done - so I had to make a choice.
The first thing I did is asked people that knew me well what they think I should do - mainly because I found it hard to think for myself. Secondly, I tried to think about what this could mean for my life and, in spite of the difficulties I had, how this job could be great for my future. Ultimately I arrived at the decision to start the job, and it's been quite good for me. Preparing and anticipating my new role helped me focus on something, when all I was doing beforehand was grieving.
On the other hand, had I decided not to take the job. I had the knowledge that, because I'd secured this position, I knew I could do it again. The same goes for your vac scheme. You're obviously a fantastic candidate and can do this again in the future, should you need to.
I cannot stress the importance of putting your mental health first, seeking support and doing what is right for you - not just what someone else tells you to do.
I hope things turn around for you soon, stranger. If you need a chat or want to talk about what's going on, please reach out via my DMs.
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(Sorry for any bad grammar, I'm between calls at work!)
