Hi Jessica, I'm a future trainee due to start a training contract in 2023 at a firm with a large trainee intake (>50 per year). I'm in a bad place mentally and for this and other reasons I am thinking about delaying graduation for a year. What is holding me back is the fear that this will lead to me losing my TC. Do you have any advice on how to approach my firm to ask for a deferral and whether it's realistic to get a deferral?
Sorry to hear about your current situation. You really need to do what is best for your mental health and exploring your options here is important to work out what is going to be best for you longer term.
What I will stress is that it is highly unlikely you will lose your TC just by enquiring as to whether a deferral is possible.
At worst, the firm will not be able to provide you with a deferral and then you will need to consider whether you can/should delay your graduation this year and weigh up your options from there. They may not be able to offer it if their other intakes are full for instance. However, they are highly unlikely to rescind your offer just by you enquiring as to whether a deferral is possible. If you explained your reasons for wanting a deferral and they rescinded the offer, the firm would be on exceptionally dodgy grounds because of disability discrimination.
I would call your main point of contact at the firm and explain that you would like to understand whether a deferral is possible and if so, what is the process. It is likely that they will want to understand your reasons for deferring though, and I think it is best to be honest with them and explain to them your current situation. These days the vast majority of firms will take mental health seriously and will understand that these things happen. They might even be able to provide you with some form of support - in the past some of the firms I worked for gave future trainees the same access to support mechanisms that they did with employees. They will probably want to know you have factored in other considerations into this decision (e.g. you have spoken to your university and have considered any financial implications).
In short, the worst that can happen at the moment is the firm cannot offer a deferral. That puts you in no different position than you are now. However, by having the conversation, not only may you get the deferral but you could also get other support from the firm too.
Whether it is feasible or not is a real unknown and only the firm will be able to guide you on this. If it is deferring to an intake that they are still recruiting for, it might be easier. But there are a lot of considerations that go into moving people across intakes and it won't just be dependent on your individual circumstances. When you do ask, the firm may need time to consider it and may need to come back to you at a later date once they have had conversations with other people.