How do you guys get over post AC rejection? Literally, this AC went so well (in my opinion), did well in the case study, associate interview etc and at this point I feel like this is just impossible. I don't understand what wasn't good enough and I've asked for feedback but my god this is so sad and so frustrating. At this point this feels more like luck than anything. Could have not done anything better on the day!
Hi there
@E.A
I am really sorry to hear about your rejection. I appreciate and empathise that when you get to the AC and get a rejection following that, it can, in my opinion, be even more difficult because you do begin to pin your hopes and it does feel that much more personal.
Just for context and for anyone reading this who is not familiar with my journey, in my second cycle, I had 3 post AC rejections before securing my TC with my dream firm. Following that 3rd post-AC rejection, I felt so demoralised and as though it was virtually impossible for me to get a TC. I got my invite for my firm about two weeks or so after my 3rd rejection and instead of feeling complete elation, there was a part of me that panicked and thought perhaps I was interviewing at the wrong time as clearly, to my mind, there was something innately wrong with me as a candidate and I had some more self development to do. But believe me when I say, I am the biggest believer in the notion that we all get the TC at the firm we are really destined for. Additionally, because I felt so down on my luck, I decided I would go to my firm's AC and just try to get out of it as much as I could and enjoy it. I think taking a bit of pressure off myself and going with that mindset really helped me to be more myself and to feel more relaxed and comfortable.
I share everything I just have in the hope that it reassures you that, firstly, you are not alone in feeling the way you do, but also, if you keeping pushing and going, I guarantee you will get a TC and most likely at the firm which truly suits you best.
I was lucky in the sense that all my rejections were followed by feedback. Will you get feedback? One thing I have realised is our judgement of an AC can be quite different to a firm's. I distinctly remember being asked how I found an AC and what I thought went well/didn't. Myself and the lovely lady delivering my feedback genuinely laughed about how off my perception had been - it turned out the assessment I thought I did well had been my weakest and vice versa.
What I can safely and soundly tell you now is, whilst the rejections I did get really did knock my confidence a bit at the time, I am genuinely so grateful for them. The feedback and learning more about law firm processes has really helped me to address areas where I wasn't as strong and it has meant I am now much more personally and professionally developed to get stuck into my TC and to hopefully start on an even better foot than I would have, being much more self-aware as well.
I know this is a lot to take in in just one post but I sincerely hope it offers you some solace today. It is totally normal to grieve an opportunity lost because, despite ourselves, we cannot help but hope and envisage succeeding. Take this time to feel what you are feeling, it is totally valid. Then, when you feel ready and when you hopefully have some feedback, try to consider what it is you can do to action your feedback. It might be that you need to be more concise in your competencies - I certainly have a technique I can share to help with that. It could be a confidence issue, in which case, we can certainly try to offer our tips and advice and it might be worth speaking to a mentor/seeking a mentor to help you. What I am trying to say is, everything has a solution or something which can be done to make you even more of an outstanding candidate and to be truly the best version of yourself.
We are all here to support you and we are rooting for you. If you have any questions at all, you know where we are, and please do let us know if we can support you with your feedback.